COUNSELLORS CORNER
Perspective – How big is my problem,
Often we go to battle over little things; in doing so we teach our children that every little thing matters and that there is no room for compromise or development. Children grow by pushing back at times; they will test boundaries as they begin to feel safer in exploring the world they live in. Children develop vital negotiation skills and learn the art of give and take by their interactions with others. However if our children believe every small thing is a big thing they can often have emotional reactions that are out of proportion to the problem they are facing. The playground is the area that children often need to gain perspective on the size of their problems. Children can often be caught up in the moment and become heavily invested in arguments that won't matter in 5 years time or even in 5 hours. Teaching your child how to recognise the perspective of what is happening, helps them set health boundaries, learning when to ignore something, walk away, stand strong, or ask for help. Below is a table that shows emotional responses to the size of a problem. Teaching your child this will help them develop a sound understanding of emotional response and healthy communication in relation to problems they may face.
Mrs Rita Maher
School Counsellor
CatholicCARE Wollongong
25-27 Auburn St (PO Box 1174) Wollongong 2500
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